This change refactors package graceful into two packages: one very well
tested package that deals with graceful shutdown of arbitrary
net.Listeners in the abstract, and one less-well-tested package that
works with the nitty-gritty details of net/http and signal handling.

This is a breaking API change for advanced users of package graceful:
the WrapConn function no longer exists. This shouldn't affect most users
or use cases.

This is meant to accomplish a few things:
1. graceful no longer spawns an additional goroutine per connection.
   Instead, it maintains a sharded set of idle connections that a single
   reaper goroutine can go through when necessary.
2. graceful's connection struct has a more orthogonal set of connection
   state flags, replacing the harder-to-understand state machine. The
   underlying mechanics are largely the same, however.
3. graceful now uses the Go 1.3 ConnState API to avoid the "200-year
   SetReadDeadline hack." It still falls back on SetReadDeadline on Go
   1.2 or where ConnState does not apply.

This feature can be used in place of the pile of hacks in middleware.go,
and doesn't involve awkwardly shimming out a http.ResponseWriter. Sounds
like a win-win!